Hello...

You've experienced the loss to someone special in your life. Your life is forever changed. I can only imagine your pain. No words I have can take that away.  

I am here to walk beside you during this time of grief. Blue Family First 52 is a private program designated for Law Enforcement Professionals and their families.  This program will rotate 6 lessons and then a reflection day on the 7th day as you move through the 52 lessons.

Honor yourself and go at your speed. There is not a right or wrong way to move through the program. This is your time, your grief. The emails do continue to guide you through. It's up to you to go your own pace. The program is yours... it will not just go away in 2 months. I encourage you to go back into different lessons to further explore topics as they naturally arise in your life.

You will receive daily emails to take you step-by-step through 52 lessons as a bereavement roadmap. Each email will provide a link to the course. You will get a little bit of information about that week's topic. *You may be prompted to sign-in each day with your email and password, so keep that handy. 


Here are some tips for this program:

You may want to have a designated folder or notebook for the exercises and activities you will complete. Be prepared to download and print handouts or you can simply write in a notebook.

Give the activities a try. You may not be the best drawer... that's okay, I'm not either. You may not love journaling... that's okay, me too. I can tell you that there are a variety of different activities to help you build insight and understanding to help YOU... You won't know what works until you try... Some things will be great, other's won't work for you. It's all part of the process.

Have some drawing materials on hand... crayons, markers, gel pens or colored pencils... something with color. It will be handy throughout the program.

Text that is green is a link that you can follow to learn more information or a useful website so you don't have to go searching.

Expect to learn, feel, remember, and grow. Your grief is a part of you... it's important to understand it and find ways to continue a meaningful connection with your loved one. I never want you to forget your loved one... I want you to find ways to remember that work for you.

Watch the video. The video establishes what you can expect from the Blue Family First 52.

You will have the opportunity to connect to other program participants in the comments section of each lesson. You may post and share your experience and observations as well as read through other's responses.

Please read the Blue Family First 52 Program Agreements. In order to progress in the program, you will be asked to make a commitment to uphold this online platform as a safe space for the greater Blue Family of grievers.


Blue Family First 52 Program Agreements

There is a level of trust to be held within this community. Here are program agreements for you to know prior to registering for Blue Family First 52.

There are limits to confidentiality in an online group setting and you are encouraged to share only what you are comfortable sharing with others. The Blue Family First 52 is not intended to be individual counseling. 

General Program Agreements

  1. I understand that each person’s grief is unique. No two griefs are the same though there may be similarities. Please respect an honor your own and others grief experiences. 
  2. Grief is not a disease, and no “quick-fix” exists for what you are feeling. Each person has their own time and way of grieving.
  3. Feel free to share or NOT share about your grief. The choice is yours. Please share only what you are comfortable sharing with others. Sharing builds the sense of community within the program. It is not required to respond to the activity comments. You may feel more comfortable watching the videos and completing the activities on your own. The program and commenting within the program platform community is for you to utilize for your growth in your grief.
  4. Thoughts, feelings and experiences shared in this group will stay in this group. Respect others’ right to confidentiality. Do not use names of fellow participants in discussions outside of the program. 
  5. The program offers 52 lessons of information. You may take a break and resume the program at your own discretion. The program will continue to be available for you to revisit topics as you face grief experiences.
  6. Avoid “advice giving” unless it is specifically requested by a group member. If a group member poses a question, share ideas that helped you if you experienced a similar situation. Remember that this group is for support, not therapy.
  7. Recognize that thoughts and feelings are neither right nor wrong. Outside of hurt to self or others, you cannot grieve any other way than your way.
  8. Create an atmosphere of willing, invited sharing. Share if you life, remain quiet if you like. Your choice is respected.

Adapted from Alan Wolfelt

Special NOTE: Bullying, personal attacks, harassment, trolling and hate speech directed toward another griever will not be tolerated.

  • The first offense will have the note/comment removed from the platform with an email notification
  • The second offense will have the offender removed from the program with an email notification.

Thank you for allowing me into your life at this time of mourning.

Click the Complete and Continue button at the top of the page to move forward into the first lesson.

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